You’ve been worried about how sex crimes are now prevalent in your neighborhood. All of the local news you see on the TV will be mostly about how teens are being involved in sex crimes either as a victim or as the abuser. Naturally as a parent, you never want your kids who are now in their adolescents to experience any situations like these. You understand that even if a sex crime happened only once, its effects could have adverse effects on your child which will last a lifetime, and as a parent, you believe that talking to teens about it is one of the best ways to ensure that they avoid any such situation.
You now have a clear goal in mind, but one thing is stopping you – how can you possibly talk to your kids about sex crimes? You understand that teens now have a mind of their own and injecting this kind of information will not come off easily. Yes, doing this can be difficult, but it is something possible to achieve. To help you to realize your goal, here are some ways on how you can talk to your teens about sex crimes and how they can avoid it:
- You should talk about body parts early: Depending on how young or old your child is right now, chances are, he might already know about different body parts but failed to name them correctly. Some are too conservative to do so while some just think that it’s inappropriate to discuss these names in public openly. As a parent, you should correct this notion and let him understand that using the correct names for body parts are necessary as this can help him talk clearly when something inappropriate has happened.
- You should teach them that some body parts are private: Private parts are called that way because these are not for everyone to see. Teach your child on how private parts are “private” and how important it is to keep it that way.
- You should teach them about physical boundaries: Since you’ve informed your child about private parts, you should supplement that information by telling him that no other person in this world is allowed to touch his private parts in the same way and that they too, should not touch somebody else’s private parts. This will prevent them from being involved in sex crimes as a victim or as a perpetrator.
- You should tell them that secrets of abuse are unacceptable: Most of the perpetrators involved in a sex crime would often tell their victims to keep the abuse as a secret. Since teens are still too innocent to comprehend if this is wrong, they may oblige the abuser’s request. Abusers can tell their victims to keep it a secret in a friendly manner or as a threat, but regardless of the method used, teens should know that this is wrong and should never be tolerated. If someone tries to make them keep an abuse secret, they should talk to you about it immediately.
- You should tell them that no one should take pictures of their private parts: With the advent of technology, sex crimes can happen virtually and sometimes, without the victim’s consent. You should be able to create a clear picture in the teen’s mind that there are countless pedophiles in the world, and they’d love to take and trade pictures of naked teens online. This kind of epidemic puts your child at great risk. You should be able to inform your child that no one is allowed to take pictures or videos of their private parts.
- You should teach them how to get out of a scary or uncomfortable situation: Your child may be one of those people who can’t easily say “no,” especially when someone older than them asks for a favor. Yes, it can be impolite to some, but your child should have the confidence to refuse when the situation becomes too uncomfortable or hostile for them. If something that feels wrong is happening, give them words which could help them get out of uncomfortable situations. When someone attempts to touch any of your child’s private parts, tell your child that they can make excuses just to get out of the situation.
- You should tell them that body touches might feel good: Your child might think that just because the body touch didn’t hurt, doesn’t mean it’s bad. This mindset is wrong, and you’re responsible for changing how your child thinks. Let them know that a body touch can feel good and even tickle, but this doesn’t imply that such action is appropriate. Be firm in telling them that private parts should not be seen or touched by other people, and regardless of the sensation it gives them, body touches are still wrong.
- You should tell them that all of these rules apply even to people they know: Perpetrators are lurking in every corner, and their personas don’t have to be a complete stranger. They don’t have to look like a “bad guy” as depicted in films, but anyone can be a perpetrator. Tell your child that even a relative or a friend can commit sex crimes with them as a victim. If this happens, they should be able to talk to you about it.
Doing this for the first time might be difficult for you, but you should not dwell too much on the negative aspects of the situation at hand. Instead, you should motivate yourself to achieve your goal because this is one of ensuring that your child can live a happy and peaceful life in the long run.